Let me explain. Suppose you were doing a job you hated and were being bullied by your boss. Normally you would walk out and yet few of us can do this in the present climate so you stick it out.
Is this being Alpha? No, not really but sometimes life puts one in a Beta role. The point is to change your life so that you can be Alpha again.
What happens when you ask a subtly different question? What happens if you ask yourself if you are and Alpha rather than if you are being Alpha?
Disaster strikes! Suddenly you compare yourself to the ultimate Alpha- James Bond. This man remains unreactive whatever life throws at him. He may be blown up and thrown in a tank full of sharks and still he remains cool. What a guy- and yet he is a fictional character and even James Bond is Beta to Judy Dench who is some sort of surrogate mother to him and who he desperately wants to please (James Bond is an orphan).
Asking yourself if you are an Alpha leads to self hatred because everyone fails the test. The only way to avoid moments of doubt and self reflection is to become the most dangerous kind of psychopath. James Bond has many psycopathic charictaristics- he makes jokes as he kills and clearly enjoys it. He lacks self awareness, is reckelss and cares nothing of his own life. He seems incapable of planning and simply stumbles from one battle to the next. This is your classic impulsive thrill seeking criminal. A real life James Bond would find himself in prison or dead very quickly and would actually achieve very little.
The truth is that we all slip from Alpha to Beta and back again according to circumstance- and sometimes a Beta appearance can be useful camouflage. Beta only really does harm when it is adopted in situations where Alpha is possible. This is why we should ask ourselves if we are being Alpha rather than if we are an Alpha.
We should check our state from time to time. Beta may be appropriate in a work situation (but change your work if it is) but we need to shrug this off when we go out in the evening. On the whole we should go easy on ourselves.
3 comments:
If only I had the guts / money / lack of shame to walk away before the beta persona becomes so inwardly resentful that the alpha is forces to reveal its self and all the destruction it entails..
The alpha needs to be perfected & controlled else it becomes too strong.
Too much beta time, I believe can cause serious personality issues.
Yes. Have you ever noticded that most male feminists hate women? They indicate this by saying that 'all' men hate women when they are simply projecting their own feelings on to other men.
Actualy Alpha guys love women because they can say no to their crap. This may be why women prefer them- no hidden resentments.
I have read your original comment again and think that you should trust your inner Alpha a bit more. This does not involve running amock with an axe.. if you have any fear of yourself it is because you have alowed yourself to be abused. It is amazing how quickly the anger evaporates once you connect.
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