There are three points to the triangle. This does not mean that every drama has three participants. Dramas can involve as few as two or many millions of people- but the roles remain the same.
Suppose you were the rescuing sort (as I am) and you rescue a woman who claimed to be living in fear of her boyfriend. You have entered the drama triangle! She moves in and begins to turn your life upside down (victims attract trouble like iron filings to a magnet). Men are shouting through the letter box, legal letters are arriving and your credit record has been destroyed.
You ask her to leave- thinking that you can end the drama in this way. Unfortunately you have simply changed roles and am now the persecutor! The rescuer role is now vacant and will be quickly filled as the victim finds another rescuer to replace you. You are now the bad guy!
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